Every waking moment we are making a plethora of decisions, what are we going to have for breakfast, lunch, supper, to what time we are going to bed, and it starts all over again the next day. However, in this post we are addressing the type of decision that we tend to hesitate or vacillate to make. These are decision that carry more of a consequential effect, they are difficult and weighty to decide. Why is this the case? Allow me to say respectfully, some of us are obsessed with "perfectionism" which will impact our decision making, therefore, we tend to leave things up in the air. As a result, these people are stuck on past decisions that did not go as planned and to make a mistake would be intolerable, thus, they are holding back. To have this perception is toxic and obviously not healthy whatsoever. We must understand that we all have limitations that are innate to the human condition, such as this "imperfect" post of which I lack the words, time, and the psychoanalytical training, nonetheless, what I have to say is based on observation and anecdotal experience, so I "decided" to share.
Another restraint in making decisions, some of us tend to be sycophants, wanting to please anyone and everyone, this is someone that cannot say no. Unfortunately, this is an individual that is living the lives of others, and he would feel "guilty" if he did not, so he is apprehensive in making his own life decisions and denies his own existence. What I have found is this, if we have bouts of indecisions, it is largely because we need more research, advisement, inquiry and planning to be able to see the entire picture clearly, it is a matter of weighing the pros and cons to make an intelligible and appropriate decision. Can you see how this can mitigate the fear of making the wrong decision? I find it interesting that the word decision derives from Latin of which it means "to cut off" much when you lob off a branch, it is definitive and final. But also keep in mind that indecision is a decision all onto itself, because there are ramifications for inaction, indecision is the father of failure. Reach deep inside and determine what you want to do based on your strong core values, for what you decide today, or not, will have an effect in thirty-days, in twelve months or for the rest of your life, it is up to you.
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