There is a classroom of 5-year-old, and they are asks whether anyone in the class that knows how to draw. Immediately, there is an explosion of elation, they are all jumping up and down in their seats raising their hands. Now, the same children 20 years later, as adults, are asked the same question, and all you can hear are crickets. What has happened over the years? We have become more reticent, more self-conscious, more judgmental about ourselves, thinking someone next to me is more talented than I am. This kind of self-consciousness is an unhealthy sense of self awareness. Of course, a certain degree of self-consciousness is needed to be able to conform with social norms. Nonetheless, some of us have become excessively preoccupied with oneself, especially with how others may perceive us. This view is often associated with an unpleasant feeling that is conducive to the lack of self-esteem and in some cases paranoia, thus, we hold back. What is the difference of self-conscious and self-awareness?
Self-conscious can be likened to being on a public stage and not having a clue of what you are going to say, everyone is looking at me, can you imagine the overdose of adrenaline? An individual who possesses a healthy self-awareness has a good sense of personal judgement, can discern the reasons for his apprehension and behavior, it is about being mindful. The key is not to lock your mind into the moment, but to express how you feel in a manner that appeals for the understanding of others. Using the scenario above, can we find the wherewithal to say? "I am sure there are others in this classroom that are more artistic than I am, however, I feel good about my personal artistic acumen." This statement suggests there is a sense of pride in one's accomplishment, in fact, at the end of the day, which is only what matters. There is much to be learned from children, when we consider their uninhibited manner of expression, their honesty, speaking up without restraint. With your permission, I will be sharing some additional reasons why we tend to hold back from our accomplishments in the ensuing weeks.
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