Can we agree that in life pain is bound to happen and is inexorable, however, the level of suffering is up to the individual and is optional? I happen to agree wholeheartedly with this truism whether it is physical, emotional, or psychological pain, there is always something that can be done to lessen or eliminate a hardship or a distressing situation. In a recent episode, an impressive physician in the field of chronic pain, discussed what can be done to mitigate an acute migraine that many are subject to, therefore, some take medication, also , however, some take home remedies of which my guest personally utilizes because of his intermittent cluster headaches, hence, putting him on top of his game without affecting his mental performance to properly care for his patients. As we know, pain is pervasive in all societies, even so, all aspects of pain can be used as an inspiration, a motivator, it can be a positive thing. And with that said, I would like to share what I have found to be a fact from an observational and for the most part from an experiential standpoint.
Of course, none of us enjoy the feeling of physical pain, emotional or psychological suffering, but it is inevitable in the world we live in. But have you ever considered pain as a positive thing in your life? If your answer is, it cannot happen , I must beg to differ with you. Many relate the feelings of pain to the concept of failure; it is not something we enjoy whatsoever. But did you know it is essential to provide a better way of life for you and your family? At this point, you may be cringing about what I am saying, but allow me a minute or two to explain. True, it is a matter of perspective, but let us look at pain in whatever form as a positive lesson with an intrinsic value. When there is physical pain, what do you immediately do if the pain persists? Naturally, you visit your primary doctor to address the root of the discomfort, pain is a signal that things are not right, and if ignored, imagine the possible self-harm. Obviously, then, pain can move you forward, it will move you faster, it is actionable, for answers and solutions whether it is physical, emotional, or psychological. What is on the opposite side of the spectrum? Comfort and complacency!!! Some have said that if we find ourselves staying comfortable and complacent, we have started the process of dying. And I cannot agree more! Physical pain is straightforward and can be addressed faster than you can shake a stick unless it is chronic pain which one doctor defined it as protracted pain for more than three months. And even then, it can be managed under a doctor's care. However, emotional, or psychological pain is a little more elusive to alleviate, but it is doable, and here again, unless we get comfortable with the discomfort. Emotional Pain Affects Your Body in many ways, such as a mental manifestation of deep sorrow, unhappiness, depression, misery, acute distress , feverish loneliness, isolation , negative emotions and panic attacks. To illustrate, have you ever had a tooth ache and noticed the pain temporarily dissipate? So, what did you do? You proceed to press down on it with your tongue and you get somewhat of a relief that you still have the aching tooth. Does that sound familiar to you? Unfortunately, prolonged emotional pain is very much like that tooth ache, we get comfortable with it, we begin not to acknowledge it, it ceases to register the harm we are causing ourselves in the long duration. And forgive me for the expression, I strongly have extrapolated that anyone can get comfortable sitting on a sharp stick if left alone. So, I am here to tell you to never ignore your pain, embrace it, welcome it as a friend, do not waste it, and you will start realizing that there is something much better than the present, there is something better out there, and many opportunities await you to enrich your heart and otherwise. Pain will propel you forward and step by step it will incrementally chip away at what has been a disconcerting issue to you for much too long. Pain is the optimal motivator! It challenges us to make notable changes and propels us whether we like it or not. It inspires us to change our character, our personality, our life, and even unhealthy relationships for the better. Allow me to ask, how would we know what is right for us if it were not for the discomfort of pain? Pain is the barometer, the indicator that something in our life does not line up, that something is wrong, and it is screaming at us for change. Emotional pain is extremely tough but the absence thereof, we would never fully appreciate the pleasure and satisfaction of finding a final resolution. It provides you with real life lessons, and it makes you grow developmentally. Stuck in the past and wondering and pondering why this or that occurred to you is pointless and futile. Every terrible experience carries a lesson to be learned about the real world, especially yourself, and at the end of the day, it cultivates practical and actionable wisdom. As mentioned, pain will become your best instructor and teacher . To be Frank with you, our failures, when we get slapped down, our downfalls or hitting rock bottom are an integral part of life and are the most indelible, are the most impactful for learning life's lessons. On my show I have interviewed so many that have gone through a painful experience, and because of that, have moved forward by writing a cathartic memoir of their resilience, their magnificent work, there tenacity for the purpose of teaching others that it is possible to unstuck yourself and make a positive difference in one’s life and are imbued to pay it forward to others. And These are the folks that are the ones who are aiding and assisting people by creating support systems, worldwide organizations for people in dire need. Can we see how pain is clearly correlated with inspiration? It goes together like peanut butter and jam! Again no one enjoys pain unless there is a neurochemical imbalance which is another article all onto itself for the future. But purpose comes from what we experienced in the past, we know how it feels, therefore, we are imbued to help and support others to be effective in their lives. It is called “empathy,” enabling you to understand the feelings of others. If you are like me, my preference is to prevent physical and emotional pain. So how do you begin to do that? For starters, why not acquire mental clarity and minimize stress? By living a life of simplicity that reduces mental clutter and creates clarity of mind, your thinking will become limpid, it will help the mind to relax and focus on what is of utmost importance to you in connection with your core values. With only minimal things pulling at you, you can realize your goals, your passions, and solidify necessary relationships. By entirely removing unneeded materials possessions, Unnecessary obligations, it will give you more valuable mental space for concentration, paving the way for you to progress. You will discover that simplicity permits you to prioritize your commitments and wisely allocates precious time and efforts to what is enormously important, the result is greater productivity and a wonderful sense of accomplishment. Please permit me to expound on the matter of adopting more of a conscious approach to our purchasing power where we can save financially and break free from the bonds of unnecessary material desires which have proven to be painful if not kept in check. We must understand, financial emancipation derives from realizing that true happiness and fulfillment in life lie in great experiences, from developing new relationships, from the intrinsic part of your heart, and not from the extrinsic environment like materialism. Before acquiring an item , stop and ask yourself if the item is in alignment with your core values and if it is truly a necessary item or is it just a want. Like my mama would say, "quality is better than quantity" which is also true in building new relationships as well. Please give thought to what was said in this article as to pain being a positive thing. Do not ignore it but act on the signal, pay attention to the message it is giving you. You are overdue for a reprieve! And never forget, pain of all types creates inspiration, it creates motivation and finally it creates innovation!
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